“If we lose love and self respect for each other, this is how we finally die.” Maya Angelou


The Winter Solstice is always about looking at the light and dark in ourselves and the world, remembering that we are heading towards the light. It is about the festive season, a time to share and remember those less fortunate than ourselves. A time of sadness and joy. Some people will be celebrating with family and friends, others will be alone either by choice or circumstances. There is often a mixture of conflicting emotions.


The beginning of this Solstice has a serious feel to it – a metaphorical groan as we face some personal stock taking. There will be a tension between wanting the company of others and spending time alone to reflect on the past year, the present and the future. What were the lessons learned, what do I need to resolve then let go of, what is still a work in progress? The main focus of the Solstice is relationships starting with the relationship we have with ourselves, our self worth, personal ambitions and authenticity. How open minded are we when listening to other points of view/opinions? Do we people please avoiding conflict, are we easily influenced by others or do we go to the extreme opposite? Being resourceful and creative in resolving differences will be key as well as making decisions slowly.


There are also relationships with those close to us and the larger community. The above quote by Maya Angelou feels very apt. The emphasis for many this year is about self-care, values and respect. Two expressions come to mind: “We can’t give away what we haven’t got” and “We need to walk a 1000 miles in someone’s moccasins before we really understand a different point of view or situation”. Questioning ourselves about self care, ask where are we neglectful, where are we overindulgent, what can we do differently?


Being clear about our values can be an interesting exercise. The order of priority will differ with each individual. We can make judgments like “surely they can see ...”, “why can’t they understand”. This can become a judgment minefield so it would be wise to see if our values are flexible and where they might not be. Finally we come to respect – how well do we respect ourselves? Do we only respect like minded people? How do we balance a need for personal freedom and respecting other people’s needs? Reserving our judgment is a healthier option rather than making them based on hearsay or superficial knowledge.


Putting this Solstice in simple terms, it is about reaching a place of love for ourselves, others and the world around us resolving family feuds and wars.







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